Betsy- that is really hard. Advice will vary based on some factors. Kids that need homeschooling? Hubby generally pulling his weight? Do you have a dedicated office and good work environment (assuming that you’re working at home)? Some of these ideas may not work if you don’t have a dedicated office or if you are homeschooling.
Assuming that you are WFH, I would first make sure that you have a dedicated place to work. However you work best, try to set it up. Pandora/spotify, sunshine, darkness, noise-cancelling headphones, whatever. Fresh plants or flowers on your desk. Photos of loved ones.
First, do you need a few days off? Even if you can’t go anywhere, you could do yoga, meditate, get creative in the kitchen or do a belated spring cleaning if that makes you less stressed.
Would working out help or stress you more? Setting a time for yourself in the morning to take a walk, or at 5pm or 6pm after the work day. Yoga before work?
Figure out how to plan your work. What works best for you? Do you need a bullet journal or a time chart on computer or a plan-a-day planner? You can read about this online but my advice would be to make a master list of what needs to be done before you finish work on the day before. Plan what time you’ll start work, if that’s a motivational issue. The night before or first thing in the morning, set up 5 things that need to be done that day. Break the goals down into discrete tasks and set a time frame for the morning and afternoon. Get a pomodoro timer or set your computer timer set for 25 minutes, then 5 minutes break then 25 working. Repeat. As you complete things, check them off. That is the reason to break goals into smaller tasks so you can check them off as you go. Then after a day or two of planned tasks and accomplishments, set a weekly plan and build on those successes. (I use the Mountain Planner Pro, which has daily task areas and calendar time slots along with goals for the day, and also has weekly and monthly planning pages.)
Plan a good lunch – meal prep, or frozen Amy’s or a favorite bagel sandwich. Have some tea or seltzer or coffee after lunch. Plan and take a 15 minute morning and 15 minute afternoon break.
Do you have a former coworker that you can lean on for moral support? Someone not on your current team but who knows you and/or your team and your work style and the challenges of your job. Call them and ask them to be an accountability partner for you. Explain that the pandemic has you rattled. This person may welcome the idea of decompressing and helping themselves while helping you. Text them or call them at the beginning and end of the day and check in. Tell them your goals for the day. Vent to them. Maybe it’s not a former coworker but a sister or BFF. But someone who you can ask for help and not worry about complaining to.
If internet surfing sucks you in, install a web blocker. Give yourself a timed 15 minutes on phone or ipad on your lunch hour instead as a reward. Lock your cell phone away or put it in another room if it tempts you.
Plan your work, work your plan. Reward yourself for accomplishing tasks. Pick away at things and literally pat yourself on the back or hit the done button for each task completed.
Then moving on to your husband. I hope he’s supportive and will realize that helping you succeed is the key to getting through this pandemic/job stress together. Can he take on more household tasks? Can he help by lowering your stress? If he does indeed lose his job, then he will have more time to help around the house. Kid teaching, cooking, household cleaning, yardwork.
Anyway, those are my suggestions. I’m sure that you can get through this tough time and I’m sure you will.